Worst HOA EVER

This is the most unfriendly HOA I have ever heard of. The first letter I received from them upon buying my house was not to welcome me to the neighborhood and tell he how to start paying the fees but an intent to lean on my house for non-payment of fees. I have never owned a home before so to me this was ridiculous. I had to google them to figure out how to start paying. Then they just do casual drive-by's in a random, unmarked car and take pictures of houses. I am pretty sure this could be considered stalking since there is no company name on teh vehicle. They also cite people for violations that they, themselves are in violation of and expect the homeowner to pay fees (we were in compliance with the first letter) when they do not fully take care of the common areas they are responsible for. I would love to get this homeowner association dissolved as I have heard it called.